Over the last 12 months how often did you feel uncomfortable doing or saying things around your current partner or someone you’re currently dating?
Over the last 12 months, how often did your partner, an ex-partner, or someone you dated:
- Insult you or talk down to you?
- Yell, shout, or curse at you?
- Control who you see, where you go, what you do, or what you wear?
- Make you feel afraid or scared of them?
- Threaten to harm you or someone you care about?
- Physically hurt you?
- Beat, punch, kick, strangle or hurt you with a weapon?
- Force, threaten, or pressure you to participate in any sexual activity when you didn’t want to?
(from Velonis, A., Maddox, R., Buhariwala, P., Kamalanathan, J., Hassan, M. A., Fadhil, T., & O’Campo, P. (2021). Asking the Right Questions: Screening Men for Partner Violence. Journal of Interpersonal Violence)
You don’t have to be alone with that
We offer services to any male victim of violence in a domestic setting. The violence can be physical, psychological, or financial. It may or may not have results in criminal charges. The areas we cover are Vaudreuil-Soulanges, Beauharnois-Salaberry, and le Haut-Saint-Laurent.
Can I be victim of domestic violence even though I am a man?
Any one can be victim of domestic abuse, regardless of sex or gender, and regardless of the sex or gender of the person comitting the violence.
Can I be victim of domestic abuse even without physical violence?
Violence is violence. Inflicting physical pain is violence. Preventing someone from seeing their friends or family is violence. Forcing someone to give access to their phone and private messages is violence. Calling someone several times per hour is violence. Monitoring someone constantly is violence. Preventing someone from going outside is violence. Threatening to file false accusations is violence. Threatening to hurt or kill oneself if you leave is violence.
Can I be a victim of domestic violence even if I am violent myself?
Violence in a relationship can go only in one direction, or in both direction between partners. However the dynamics, each person is responsible for their actions, and no one deserve to be hurt.
I hate the word “victim”. I refuse to define myself as “a victim”.
Victim is not a definition, it is an adjective. You are, and always will be, a human being, a person defined by what they are, what they do, not by what they have been subjected to.
What if I am wrong? What if it is all in my head and I am not victim of anything?
The intake sessions are there to explore your situation froma professional objective standpoint. It is the task of our counselors to analyse each situation, to provide the appropriate support to each individual client.